Is there a project or goal or something that you have been wanting to complete but can’t seem to reach the finish line? It is so incredibly frustrating when you feel like you have done everything possible, and yet you aren’t getting your desired results.
No doubt you have thought about what you want, talked about what you want, and even imagined how it will be once you have achieved the goal. All of this ‘doing’ counts for something doesn’t it?
It sure does, but, perhaps you are agonizing and struggling with this goal because of what you are not doing. Believe it or not, a lot of people confuse their efforts and attempts towards accomplishing their goals by what is going on in their heads vs. what they are doing (or not doing) in with their bodies.
Not getting into physical movement to do something toward a goal is hardly uncommon, and ‘doing’ mostly in the head and less in the body is a hard place to find joy when it comes to pursuing and accomplishing our goals.
Now, thinking, planning, and imaging are vitally important aspects of goal setting and goal completion. but there is one action in goal pursuing and goal succeeding that takes the cake, and that my friend is ACTION!
For some people, even me at times, taking (physical) action is a whole ball of wax of its own. This mess of a ball contains our fears, our doubts, our insecurities and all of our limiting beliefs about what it means or what will happen if we in fact take the necessary (and usually obvious) action.
“Oh no, we’ll get closer to our goal.”
It’s so bizarre but this is part of the human condition. We complicate things. We resist and we defy logic, reason and ease. Our thinking often times over-rules our doing. We actually get in our own ways a lot and for absolutely no good reason. We humans are great at making up or finding reasons not to ‘do’ exactly what we say we want, but like I said, that’s a ball of wax to be worked out with focused and deliberate support.
Let’s get back to cake. Cake is so much tastier than wax.
There is one thing that really allows for success, and there is even a math equation out there somewhere to prove it. The vital ingredient to success is Momentum.
Momentum is the ‘cake’ to goal pursuit and goal success. And to get momentum, you must move. You must take action (with physical movement vs. your fantastic thinking). You have to literally get up, move, do, and act.
Momentum is a wonderful physical law that builds upon itself; and it becomes a stronger force with increasing or consistent motion.
But to get momentum one must take action. Whoops watch out for that ‘ball of wax’. Let’s just sidestep it because I’m talking about small action anyway. Not those big super-sized actions we sometimes trip ourselves on.
Too often people who come to me struggling with unmet or unreached goals do so because they try to “eat the entire elephant” or the ‘whole cake’ in their first step toward their goal.
“You can’t do that”! It will make you figuratively sick, meaning incapable of having the success you want and that’s just plain frustrating.
Let’s stay polite in pursuing our goals.
Let’s take small, graceful bite-size actions. Let’s, run one lap, make one phone call, clean one corner, write one page, offer one apology, pay one bill, and then when that one is done, set your next goal to do that again.
That is taking action. And when you take this kind of action and repeat it six to a dozen times, then you find yourself meeting the physical law of momentum. or, “cake”. This is where your pursuit starts to feel fun and effortless.
It’s the exact same principle as riding a bike. To get the bike started you feel the physical effort from yourself. You are making the bike move. But then, after maybe a dozen full rotations pedaling, momentum takes over and the bike is now making you move. It’s taking you for a ride. “Cake”!
That’s right, momentum takes over and takes on the effort as well. You become more of a responder versus an initiator at this point. And all for the small price of six to a dozen regular and consistent bite-sized, doable, actions. Smart!
So what are you waiting for. Cake right? Great, so why not get up and take the first smart, bite-sized, doable action you know makes sense toward your goal as soon as you can and then, when you finish that, follow it up tomorrow accordingly, and so on.
You can do this!